Laughing at Ourselves

Admit it, there are times in all our lives we’re embarrassed and want to hide from the world.  Often times, it’s in those moments that a true glimpse of life can be seen as well as the reality of who someone is.  Come on, you know what I mean, one of those moments so rare in its quality that you might miss it if you’re not paying attention.  You could also miss it if you aren’t there when it happens.  To me it’s those moments, the ones that are really embarrassing, I love to capture in my mind, remembering the experience with as much detail as possible in order to allow myself to search for that particular data file hidden away in the recesses of my brain at some point in the future.

The last few months have been filled with more “stuff” than I would’ve ever expected.  In the midst of all of this “stuff” I haven’t been able to write my blog as I had hoped much less write anything at all.  I recently read a greeting card which stated an absolute truth scrolled on it in beautiful calligraphy:  life is often messy.  Personally, I believe that life is what’s happening to us while we’re waiting to live.  In order to actually change this paradigm I think we’ve got to find ways to laugh at ourselves, finding the humor in our embarrassing situations, finding our own humanity in the midst of the struggles we face.  Recently, I experienced my own embarrassing moment and realized that I try to create that in some of the characters I write about.

I want them to face their challenges and the reader to be, at times, frustrated with the character.  If I can accomplish this it means that the reader has become involved in my story, finding that they are participating in the emotions I am trying to create.  The main character of my first novel, A Work in Progress, is a guy named Jeremy Jackson.  He’s a regular guy who gets caught up in something much bigger than he is and then struggles to figure out how to deal with the events surrounding him.  If you can’t look at a character and see their flaws then they aren’t real.  I mean, even batman and superman have their flaws.  It’s in these flaws that we, as readers and watchers, identify with allowing us to root for the good guys.

Think about it.  Who wants to root for the person you can’t identify with?  In my stories I want to create an emotional response.  Hopefully, by having characters the reader can identify with helps to accomplish this.  Because, after all, we all have our own flaws and the only way to see them as well as address them is to identify them.  Sometimes laughing at our situation allows us the ability to do this.

Where is your hero?

Today it seems many are searching for a hero.  They’re looking behind doors and around corners, in search of the ever elusive hero.  Why?  Often times, the people who we think are heroes disappoint, either failing us too consistently or at the absolute worst time.  Regardless of whether we’re talking about politics, leaders, families, athletes, etc. the canvas we see tends to want, almost demand, a hero be included in the brush strokes of our perspective.  It goes to say that with the search for these heroes there is a part of our psyche searching for villains, those we can heap the most blame on.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a terrorist, a competitor, or a person who has a different belief of God or politics: our mind is amazingly adept at enveloping them with a villainous fog.  I’ve decided I’m tired of this way of thinking; hopefully, others are also tiring of it.

I remember Ted Turner’s efforts to start the “Goodwill Games.”  It impressed me so much that I wrote a letter to TV Guide saying something really corny like “before people can work together they need to learn how to play together.”  I was around 12 years old and they actually published it (my first and only attempt at writing professionally until my recent novel, A Work in Progress).  As I think back about my letter to TV Guide I’ve come to a conclusion.  We need to stop looking around for our hero and instead, look inside our own selves and become the best hero we can possibly be.  This doesn’t mean we’ll be successful but it does mean we’ll be striving to be a better person and once we have obtained being a better person we then need to try and climb another rung of that ladder in our effort to become a hero.  As we take each of those steps we’ll be making our part of the world a little better.  Even the renowned Dr. Phil has a quiz you can take in order to see if you’re on the path to becoming an everyday hero, try it and see where you stand on this quest - (http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/667).

We’ve all heard about the individuals surrounding us who are doing the best that they can.  Am I?  Are you?  If each of us makes a conscious choice today to become a better person tomorrow will that change the world?  Probably not, I don’t think there are enough readers of my blog (it would be pretty cool though, wouldn't it?), but we will make a difference in ourselves and to those around us.  Somebody has to be first, why not us?   Let’s try and do something extra tomorrow…heck, let’s try to do something extra tonight and then, when tomorrow rolls around let’s do it again.  Each day we’ll be striving to be better and it won’t matter whether we reach hero status or not because somewhere along the way we’ll have made a positive difference in somebody’s life and like the concept of “paying it forward” who knows where this might take us!  Maybe tomorrow it’ll be helping someone you don’t know or putting down what you’re doing to pick up and comfort a crying child.  You see, heroes to me aren’t worshipped and rare; they are average people doing the best that they can do.  That’s why I created the character Jeremy Jackson in my novel.

He’s not a rhetorical hero; he’s a real one, a regular guy who has to make difficult choices and struggles making those choices.  Is he always right?  Absolutely not!  To me heroes in the real world, or at least in “Larry’s World,” aren’t perfect in their choices but they try really hard to make the best choices.  In one of my favorite television shows (NCIS) there’s a character played by Mark Harmon: Leroy Jethro Gibbs.  Now, let me tell you, Leroy Jethro Gibbs is a hero.  I don’t care whether or not he’s real; he’s still a hero to me.  Is he always right?  No (almost though) and he has his flaws.  But that’s sort of like my character Jeremy Jackson – he’s not always right but he’s always trying.  I believe we each have a bit of hero inside; some more evident than others, and whether or not we find that hero our efforts to be a better person are what the world needs!  If you like what I’ve said and/or the way I’ve said it maybe you’ll check out my book.  But even if you don’t check out my novel please tell others to look inside themselves and search out the hero hiding there; let’s start making a difference together and let's start today.

If you want to see how Jeremy Jackson takes on his challenges you can find my book at http://www.amazon.com/A-Work-In-Progress-ebook/dp/B004XD91IC/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?ie=UTF8&m=AG56TWVU5XWC2 for either the Kindle or in print and see for yourself, if you want to let me know your thoughts you can check me out on Twitter @AboutmybooksLS, email me – larry@larrysheridan.com, go to my website www.larrysheridan.com or go to my novel’s Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/A-Work-in-Progress/225449777471634.